Your 4-Year-Old: Language, Imagination and Big Questions

“Why is the sky blue? Why does grandpa have wrinkles? What if I were a lion?” At 4, your 4-year-old child asks a thousand questions, tells themselves stories out loud and turns the living room into a fire station. Development at 4 shows mostly in language and imagination: they no longer just make sentences, they use them to think, negotiate and play with others.

It is also the age when many Moroccan children start or continue their year of preschool. Here are the useful milestones, what helps at home, and the signs that should make you see a doctor.

What can a 4-year-old do?

Most children this age have acquired the skills below. They combine the milestones of the US CDC (for the end of the 4th year) and those of the Canadian Paediatric Society. A child may be ahead in one area and a little behind in another: it is the whole picture that counts.

The person drawn at this age is often a “tadpole person”: a big head with arms and legs coming out of it. This is a normal stage. Your child colours better and better inside the lines and starts to copy a few letters, according to a Quebec milestones document.

Language: telling, inventing, asking why

At 4, your child holds a real conversation, follows a story without pictures and asks “why” in series. Some sounds still give them trouble, which remains usual. What matters is that, as at 3, someone outside the family understands them most of the time.

Imagination, for its part, explodes. They invent friends, say they saw a dragon at school, mix dream and reality. This is not lying: it is a stage of development. Make the most of it: read stories and ask them to imagine what happens next, have them tell you about their day at dinner.

If your child grows up with darija at home and French or Arabic at school, they may mix languages or answer in one when spoken to in the other. This is normal, as our article on the multilingual child in Morocco explains. If they often trip over words or get blocked, see our guidance on stuttering in children.

Emotions and tantrums: what changes at 4

At this age, your child accepts a limit better when it is explained and starts to express anger with words rather than hands. They cope a little better with waiting and look for compromises with other children.

Tantrums do not disappear for all that. Tiredness, hunger, a little brother taking up space still set them off. What helps:

• naming the emotion (“you are furious because the tower fell down”);
• offering a way out: a quiet corner, a cuddle, breathing together;
• holding the limit without shouting or humiliating, then talking about it later when calm.

Our article on children's tantrums details these reactions. Imitation games help a lot: playing doctor before a vaccine, teacher before the start of school, lets your child “rehearse” a situation that worries them.

What games for a 4-year-old?

The best games at this age work on imagination, hands and “taking turns”.

• Pretend play: play kitchen, dressing up, dolls, garage. Our imitation games cover these wishes.
• First board games that are cooperative or very short: they teach waiting, losing and counting squares. See our board games section and our guide to board games by age.
• Creating: modelling clay, cutting, gluing, painting. Our creative games and our article on hands-on activities give ideas.
• Moving: ball, hopping, an obstacle course in the garden or park. The WHO recommends at least three hours of physical activity a day at this age, including one hour of more intense activity.

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Sleep and screens: the WHO benchmarks

Between 3 and 4 years, the WHO recommends 10 to 13 hours of sleep per 24 hours, nap included if your child still has one, with regular bed and wake times. Many children give up the nap around 4; a quiet time after lunch remains useful.

For screens, the same recommendation sets less than one hour a day, and less is better. Long summer evenings and screens in the bedroom quickly eat into sleep. If bedtime becomes a battle, our article on the child who refuses to sleep offers ideas, and our guidance on screens helps you set rules.

School at 4: what they learn there

In Morocco, 78.7% of 4 and 5-year-olds were enrolled in preschool in 2023-2024, according to Ministry of National Education figures reported by Hespress. At this age, preschool does not aim to teach reading. Programmes, such as the one described by Naître et grandir in Quebec, rely on play, independence (tidying their things, washing hands), life in a group and discovering letters and sounds.

At home, you help mostly by letting them dress themselves, apart from difficult fastenings, eat alone, and read with them every day. To choose a school, see our article on preschool in Morocco. The next stage is covered in the 5-year-old.